I love you

Isn't it the most sought after, abused set of words? Can there be 'I love you soo much' and 'I love you not as much'. The love we have for animate and inanimate objects, are they true love? I love my wife, my mom, sis, brother, my country, my religion, my culture..the list goes on..Isn't this normal. It is, so is there a problem?

Can love and hate ever coexist. Can I hate Pakistan and love India. Do I really love India? To start with do I know to love? The audience or objects we have as the 'beneficiary' of our love follows a pattern here. It revolves around 'I' and 'my'. It creates too many 'isms'. Love for my country creates 'nationalism', and it creates army, navy and air force to 'protect' it. The soldiers are actually taught and strongly believe that its ok to kill. For the love of God one is taught to kill the non believer and attain martyrdom and it is ok too. What is going wrong here? If in both examples if the love was not abused with a certain belief or an 'ism' and the love was for mankind could there be conflict?

The truth of the matter is I dont know how to love. Love is a matter of convenience, security and objects of indulgence. How far your love goes is just reflective of how far you have shed your narcissism. We all are narcissists of various degree. Some are 'pure' cant see beyond their nose tip, for some its 'I and my family', for some its 'I, my family, my community' so on and so forth...

With the word love there is one more word used in tandem, most times - unconditional. When one can actually love unconditionally , it dissolves the 'I' then love is true love and then there is clarity and no contradiction in action. There is no way I can hate people of Pakistan to express my love for people of my country. I either have love in my heart or i don't. Everything else is only 'I' convincing 'I' that I can love. Its a shield I use to nurture my 'I' and 'I's short sighted interests and protect it.

The obsessions of 'I' is the root cause of all conflicts in this world. I loves I*, nothing else. Period.

* I loves I is a leaf out if is S.N Goenka's discourse. Most blogs will have huge influence of my interpretation of Dhamma and Jiddu's thinking.

"Kalavum Katru Mara"

Meaning 'Learn the Art of Thievery and forget'. Its a saying in Tamil..from the old days..

The world took it too serious and we have b schools. Schools that churn our suave, articulate, well groomed, well dressed 'beings' that knows only one way of operation.. in line with famed 'Have breakfast or be breakfast'.

Be innovative to 'crush competition' , we are told. Innovation is the famed jargon used to shield progress made to meet man's needs and wants alike, more so to feed on man's boredom, vice and sloth.

Right livelihood, ethics etc are studied and looked upon as obsolete and topics for summer casual reading. We might have our future generations reading them as topics of history.

Belief

Pity, we believe in what we believe based on what makes us feel secure. Secure from fear of known knowns and known unknowns and not by merit of the inherent value that belief holds.

Whats more, we fight to protect those beliefs, the essence of which is fear, then where is the freedom?